Sadie Quinn Baker from Every Life Has A Story

Becky & Zak lost their first born child, Sadie Quinn, on July 10th, 2010 due to pre-eclampsia & HELLP syndrome at 24 weeks pregnant.

Hummingbirds remind me of my Sadie~tiny, gorgeous, and perfect! I was nearly kissed on my cheek by one my first week home from the hospital as I sat on my proch, there began my love for humming birds! I particularly love the ones with green on them as I imagine Sadie would have had green eyes like her daddy and myself!!

Thursday, July 10, 2014

Fantastic article

I found this article the other day, it's a read, but SO WORTH IT!!! Enjoy!

4 years ago....

No year has been easy, but this year sure has been a challenge! So much all at once. Let's see, I Got bad news regarding our case against the dr who failed to treat me for preeclampsia, (apparently the Justice system is set up to protect criminals and wrongdoers instead of protect the innocent! Justice? What justice?) I am at the beginning of another pregnancy & having a hard time "bonding" with growing baby! I know that may sound strange, but with Sadie & then my son, I was attached the second I knew I was pregnant!! This time, I'm afraid to get attached, I suppose it's timing! With my son, on Sadie's anniversary I was one Minh away from delivery, this time at just a few weeks in. Don't get me wrong, I am very happy, just anxious!! I wish my son had his big sis to help him in life. To show him the ropes, to motivate him, to play with him, to just be!!! This isn't fair to us, but it sure isn't fair to him! We look at her picture everyday and I tell him about his big sis sadie, it just still hurts! So here we are, 4 years in, 4 years closer to bring a complete family, 4 years since I held my baby girl, 4 years of not missing a day without heartache & longing to be whole!! I love & miss her, my sadie!!!

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

3 years

My baby girl would be 3 years old today! Three years!!! Three years!!!! So sad that I can only imagine what it would be like with her here! So sad our son does not have his big sister making him laugh, teaching him all the things she has come to know! So sad our family photos are not complete, are missing our firstborn, our daughter! Not a day goes by that our hearts don't ache for our baby girl!! I was recently asked how my life has been effected by the loss of my daughter! How do you answer such a question?? How has my life NOT been effected!?!?!? EVERY single aspect of my, of our lives has been "effected" by my daughters loss!! What a foolish question! (I'll save this rant for a later post) To my baby girl, I long til the time our family will be complete, til you are in our arms!!! Three years have passed but that means we are three years closer to being a complete family!!!


That post was posted today 7/10 not 7/9, silly Blogger!!!

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

2 years today

I know I have benn absent from the blogger world for a span of time now, I apologize and will explain at a later post! For today I remember "Sadie Day" as July 10th will forever be called! Two years ago I gave birth to my firstborn, my daughter! Two years ago my baby girl died! While I will admit to the fact that this Sadie Day is not as hard as last years, it's still hurts! Hurts to depths and degrees I have never known. Time does not heal, it merely affords you the ability to learn to cope. I read a few posts today from fellow BLM's about this date and what it means for them and to us all I wish peace and hope! Without hope I don't know how I would have gotten from this day two years ago to today! Hope that I will have my baby girl back in my arms someday soon! Hope... I love you my baby girl! Mommy hasn't let a day pass without longing for you!! I love you always and forever...

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Forced Remembering...

So, I was flipping through the lovely guide on my tv, and I saw a show, "babys first day"....I know, I know, but I felt compelled to look at what it was about. So I did, and it was about a mom who had a history of pre-eclampsia with her first pregnancy, so they were doing an automatic c-section at 38 weeks. So I decided to watch it! I know! What was I thinking! Watching a show about a mom with pre-eclampsia and c-section?!?!?! WHAT!!!!???

So I watched it, and I am still trying to decide if it was helpful or harmful!?!
Watching it brought back a FLOOD of memories and emotions! I guess I hadn't really remembered a lot of the surgery or the feeling I had when I knew they had gotten Sadie out, but I heard crying, no nothing except the sound of the NICU scurrying around to try to do something to save Sadie.

Watching it I felt like I was watching me getting the spinal epi, watching me lye on the table, watching me waiting for the epidural to kick in, watching me shaking uncontrollably til the point where they had to tie my arms down to keep my from hitting the surgeon, watching me when the nurse came over while they were working on Sadie asking if I wanted her to be christened, watching me as they told me she didn't make it, watching me as they handed me my baby for the first time, watching me hold my dead baby girl, watching me dazed and confused wondering how I got to this point!

So watching the show I was crying and crying! Even when they pulled the healthy baby out I cried, in fact I cried even harder because I didn't experience that! I didn't hear my baby girl cry, she didn't get to be put in my arms for comfort, she didn't get to meet everyone, she didn't have her first day...she only had her first minutes!

So while I think I benefited from a little remembering, it certainly doesn't make it any easier!

I love you my baby girl, always and forever

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Strange the way things turn out....

Yes, there is the obvious "way it turned out" baby not being able to leave the hospital and come home like "normal" babies!

Over the past few months, lots has been going on. I have been in stitches over the impending birth of a new family member. In stitches because it stinks for the obvious reasons most BLM's understand what I'm talking about...

I was terribly afraid, afraid of how it would make ME and hubby feel. I haven't held a baby since I last held mine in the hospital. I couldn't hold another, I felt a wealth of emotions as to why not. Disloyalty, fear, sadness, desire, anger, physical pain...the list goes on and on. I was in fear of the whole hospital situation for obvious reasons...last time I was in one it didn't go so well!

So anyway, it happened, baby was born, I hemmed and hawed and once again overcame myself and made it to the hospital, however brief my visit was, the point is I made it there! I walked in and I held that baby!

Then came the next hurdle baby coming home (yes, the baby lived feet from me). Baby came home, and it was ok. I actually went to hold the baby everyday I could. I realized over the past two weeks baby has been home, it was helpful, it was a kinda therapy for hubby and I to have the baby near and to hold baby, etc. It was great. Even tho we received some real bad news, it didn't seem so bad, we handled it surprisingly well, and I think it is because we had a lil baby so near!

Well, like all my stories it ends bad for me. Baby and parents moved a few towns away. We were so busy helping them move and prepare the new house, we didn't stop until....until the house was empty and baby was gone and there we were, JUST THE TWO OF US AGAIN! ALL ALONE! BABY GONE! It felt a fraction like saying bye to Sadie.

I know its silly, they are just a few towns away, but it is what it is, I can't explain in!

I hate change! I hate loss! I hate it ALL!!!